tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post8522551731455910766..comments2009-07-09T11:02:07.074-05:00Scribblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13473712188879858952webe@soon.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-8068350131632401322009-07-09T08:05:19.848-05:002009-07-09T08:05:19.848-05:00From one yeller to another, have you thought about Moxie&#39;s Release the Yelling class?<br /><br />http://www.askmoxie.org/2009/07/its-back-the-release-the-yelling-class.htmlNicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04388295203775593528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-5901770945191291002009-07-08T19:43:00.943-05:002009-07-08T19:43:00.943-05:00Im sure there&#39;s not a mother out there who doesn&#39;t wrestle with some of these demons if not all of them! I believe even those mothers who look as if they&#39;ve got it all together still have the same anxieties, fears lurking under their masks. There was a great Buffy episode once where a young guy who felt like a total loser got on top of the roof to shoot the &#39;cool kids&#39; and one of the characters was saying about how the so called &#39;cool kids&#39; have all this pain as well. <br />I can relate to the mortality fears. Having one child and not a lot of family in this area - plus a father with very aggressive cancer and watching him go through this progress is a reminder of how fleeting our lives are and how quickly things can change. I don&#39;t have any answers for the mortality fears other than somehow we have to learn to embrace change. <br />As for screaming - I hate screaming at my daughter as it makes me feel physically ill! But I have done it before and really was upset with myself. We were screamed at a lot as children and I don&#39;t want to go down that parenting road. I think our generation are really finding it tough to discipline and use boundaries without screaming or hitting children. There is a book on Amazon (of course - a book for every parenting angst!) on Scream Free Parenting. I was thinking of buying it myself. Lately when my daughter has made me angry, I have been speaking very softly which has made her think twice - I think it creeps her our!<br />As for messy houses etc, if anybody with young children says they don&#39;t have one then they must be liars! xxJosephine Tale Peddlerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16431330956687490112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-9306039138946080342009-07-07T09:31:40.566-05:002009-07-07T09:31:40.566-05:00Ditto - you are not alone with these thoughts.Mattynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-83608830969681437922009-07-06T20:00:51.494-05:002009-07-06T20:00:51.494-05:00All I can say is that so often when I read your posts I feel like you&#39;re voicing so much of what I feel about parenting, family, relationships and my self. I hope that it helps in some way to know that you aren&#39;t alone in feeling this way. I know it helps me. :) xo, celiaccphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13803083206420587669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-32885391925954623202009-07-06T19:59:04.085-05:002009-07-06T19:59:04.085-05:00Is your husband by any chance a pices? Because you literally described my husband&#39;s reaction. The problem of course, is that all is so clear in the aftermath. I&#39;m not so understanding during the storm. <br /><br />Your post, though so full of frustration, was cathartic for me to read, I feel so many of the same emotions- and over all of them lay a veil of shame.<br /><br />Some words from the Tao Te Ching that gave me comfort today...<br /><br />&quot;There is no crime greater than having too many desires;<br />There is no disaster greater than not being content;<br />There is no misfortune greater than being covetous.<br />Hence in being content, one will always have enough&quot;maepresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11740157169937312937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-2836458387525921162009-07-06T15:04:10.177-05:002009-07-06T15:04:10.177-05:00#3...it must be how most martians behave, cause mine does the same. poor guy.Raenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09163159515925486282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-59545075240427463792009-07-06T14:39:16.850-05:002009-07-06T14:39:16.850-05:00you guys are awesome..<br /><br />and my husband after reading this said you guys would think he hates a messy house... the truth is, I hate a messy house... if by the time he comes home i don&#39;t have some kind of order going on then i&#39;m the one in the bad mood... and that puts him in a bad mood... not the way the house looks.<br /><br />the hub cooks, cleans, does laundry, puts my clothes away even when i am too lazy too... basically does everything... <br /><br />our problem is he has a hard time dealing with my woe... rather than embracing me and telling me everything is gonna be OK... he&#39;d rather hide in a corner until it blows over.<br /><br />ha!scribblerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13473712188879858952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-35941818541758975092009-07-06T13:47:51.947-05:002009-07-06T13:47:51.947-05:00You have immense power within you to be still within yourself. Embrace this power. There is nothing to fear. Take a moment before you go to bed and when you wake up to remember this. Writing and time are both great healers! Take one day at a time! Don&#39;t think too far and don&#39;t keep looking back too much. Focus on the joy in your life right now.<br />All will be Well!<br /> And sing and dance to BON JOVI&#39;s <br />&quot;It&#39;s My Life&quot; :-)<br /><br />This ain&#39;t a song for the broken-hearted <br />No silent prayer for the faith-departed <br />I ain&#39;t gonna be just a face in the crowd <br />You&#39;re gonna hear my voice <br />When I shout it out loud <br /><br />[Chorus:]<br />It&#39;s my life <br />It&#39;s now or never <br />I ain&#39;t gonna live forever <br />I just want to live while I&#39;m alive <br />(It&#39;s my life) <br />My heart is like an open highway <br />Like Frankie said <br />I did it my way <br />I just wanna live while I&#39;m alive <br />It&#39;s my life <br /><br />This is for the ones who stood their ground <br />For Tommy and Gina who never backed down <br />Tomorrow&#39;s getting harder make no mistake <br />Luck ain&#39;t even lucky <br />Got to make your own breaks <br /><br />[Chorus:]<br />It&#39;s my life <br />And it&#39;s now or never <br />I ain&#39;t gonna live forever <br />I just want to live while I&#39;m alive <br />(It&#39;s my life) <br />My heart is like an open highway <br />Like Frankie said <br />I did it my way <br />I just want to live while I&#39;m alive <br />&#39;Cause it&#39;s my life <br /><br />Better stand tall when they&#39;re calling you out <br />Don&#39;t bend, don&#39;t break, baby, don&#39;t back down <br /><br />[Chorus:]<br />It&#39;s my life <br />And it&#39;s now or never <br />&#39;Cause I ain&#39;t gonna live forever <br />I just want to live while I&#39;m alive <br />(It&#39;s my life) <br />My heart is like an open highway <br />Like Frankie said <br />I did it my way <br />I just want to live while I&#39;m alive <br /><br />[Chorus:]<br />It&#39;s my life <br />And it&#39;s now or neverM4GDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05037301160446631777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-42761124008244172982009-07-06T12:45:00.781-05:002009-07-06T12:45:00.781-05:00this is an awesome post. im not a therapist but i play one on the internet (feel free to ignore my advice!)<br />1. screaming--one day at a time. just remember you are a good mom &amp; you are aware of it--therefore you can change it.<br />2. your body--one day at a time. learn to love it &amp; be proud of it &amp; make little changes in eating habits &amp; activity. so what if you don&#39;t look like other moms. sometimes i have to check the length of my armpit hair to see when i last showered. but im living life &amp; having fun! <br />3. your husband--okay, all i have to say on this one is that YOU work all day too. does he pitch in &amp; help you when he comes home? i hope so. are you able to tell him how you feel &amp; ask for help?<br />4. (was 4 mortality?) me too. i have anxiety attacks where i am CONVINCED i am about to die. im working on it--i remind myself it is all in my head...but still i obsess.<br />5. family--i just finished reading a book by bell hooks where she talked about this. she was basically saying she needed to write about these things &amp; hoped her family could accept that this was her view of their life together. i want to write about my family &amp; history with them, &amp; i worry about this too.<br /><br />im glad you felt you could purge on your blog. i do it on mine all the time &amp; it always scares the crap out of me.<br />you&#39;re not alone!em for mightyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03652288085526823946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-8991785829967186182009-07-06T12:20:55.767-05:002009-07-06T12:20:55.767-05:00Oh my goodness, thank you thank you for writing this post. I&#39;ve been contemplating posting something similar and it&#39;s hard to process it all without feeling/sounding negative, or like you&#39;re begging for accolades. You got it all just right. Know that you aren&#39;t the only one dealing with all these issues!World of Juliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08976000893125010608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29722710.post-6748643149938585922009-07-06T11:36:50.588-05:002009-07-06T11:36:50.588-05:00This is a nice discussion on writing about the ones you love. Everyone who writes, fiction or non-fiction, struggles with this issue at some point. <br /><br />http://rachel-power.blogspot.com/2009/04/ethics-of-writing-about-those-we-love.html<br /><br />NorahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com